Mums – get in the photos!

Mums – get in the photos!

“Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory”  Dr Suess

 

As a funeral celebrant, last week I conducted the funeral of a 44 year old wife and mother of 4 kids who sadly died much too soon.

During her beautiful service, we played 3 audio visual tributes with music and photos, so many of the photos displayed were of Nadine and her children.

This got me thinking about which photos my family would use given the same situation,  as I don’t think there would be enough photos for even one photo tribute.

As a mother of 2 children myself and a keen photographer, I have 1000’s of photos but sadly very few with me in them.

As mothers we are a big part of our children’s lives but in very few photos.

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And I am not alone…. I know lots of mums who are the family’s unofficial photographer, and who take lots of photos of the family on various occasions but often find a reason not to be in the photo.

We are our own worse critic and can easily come up with an excuse “I will take the photo”, “I look too tired” “I’m in my old clothes” “I need my hair done” “I feel frumpy”

Not every photo needs to be perfect.  Social media has made us a little obsessed with making sure that every picture is perfect.  And I am guilty of deleting photos because I don’t think I look good in them.

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(This is the perfect example – I had just washed my hair and its still wet).

As Nadine’s children sat there watching their lives with their mum flash before them, they didn’t care that she didn’t have make up on, or perhaps wasn’t looking her best.   All they could see was how much she loved and adored them.  Memories that they will treasure forever.

One day, we won’t be here and the least we can do is leave our children some photographic evidence that we were there with them too.

 

 

It can be hard to savour the moment when you think there will be many more.  We think there will be a next time – but what if there is no next time.

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We really need to make an effort to be in more photos, do it for our children and how you want them to remember you.

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Melbourne Writers Festival – A matter of life and death

Melbourne Writers Festival – A matter of life and death

Last weekend I was invited by the Melbourne Writers Festival 2018 to appear in two shows in this years programme.

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The theme of this years festival was “A matter of life and death” and the programme included a wide variety of topics including Magda Szubanski attending her own funeral.

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The ACMI Cube was transformed into a funeral parlour with a focus on topics of mortality.

During the first session I was invited to present was titled the “Final Page” and I co-hosted along with two lawyers on writing your will and penning your own eulogy.

 

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During the session, I discussed the value of writing your eulogy and how this can benefit those left behind.

 

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Photo Credit Dying to know Day.

During the second session, which was also held in The Cube at Federation Square, I was invited to be on a panel along with holistic funeral director, Libby Maloney, and Rabbi Noam Sendor, to learn about different Rites and Rituals for the dead.

We shared our experiences and opened the floor to an discussion about some of the practices around death and the dying process.

Both sessions opened up some rich thoughts and great questions.

I feel extremely privileged to have been invited to take part in such an amazing and wonderful event.

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