Doing Death Differently

Doing Death Differently

People are often surprised to learn that this is a face, in an industry that most people hope they won’t need – but unfortunately we will all need to call upon it one day – the funeral industry.

Over the last 5 years, I have watched as the funeral industry slowly changes.

Families are now rejecting tradition and a “set format and insert-a-name” funeral service.  They feel their loved ones deserve a more meaningful funeral.

Adding personal touches, such as special music, sharing stories, decorated coffins and adding personalisation helps create a funeral that is unique and not just the same “cookie cutter” style that people are familiar with.

I am honoured to play a part in this change and rise of alternative funerals, giving families choices, doing death differently and breaking down the taboo surrounding death.

Handmade porcelain cremation urns

Handmade porcelain cremation urns

Having recently experienced a death in our family, I discovered personally, when a loved one is cremated, there are countless options to hold cremated remains.

Some families may scatter them, some may bury them, some may have them made into jewellery and some may choose to keep them in an urn or another container.  These days there is no shortage of what you can use for an urn and there are choices for every taste and style.

Choosing a cremation urn may be overwhelming but when making your choice, you may want to consider

  • The cost
  • The purpose of the urn – is it for display or burial?
  • What style and look you would like.
  • Do you require a full size or keepsake urn?

* A keepsake urn is a smaller version of full size urns and are designed to hold a small portion of cremated remains.

I recently met Deb Taylor, an incredibly talented studio potter & ceramic artist, who designs and creates beautiful porcelain keepsake urns.    Not only are Deb’s creations suitable for holding ashes, but they are also stunning works of art, lovingly handmade by Deb herself.

Deb has many choices and options available on her website but some of my favourites include:

The Tealight urns.  These stunning urns can also hold a small candle which can be lit at special times.

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They can also allow you to add some lovely words or inspiration

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There are many other designs available including heart and ring shaped urns.

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The ashes are contained within a silk pouch inside the urn, and each urn has been handcrafted with care, compassion, attention to detail and respect for their ultimate use.

Feel free to get in touch with Deb as she is happy to discuss any customisation or personalisation options that you have in mind.

Deb Taylor – The Porcelain Urn Company 

Photo Credit: Jun Chen

 

 

 

The changing face of Celebrancy

The changing face of Celebrancy

Almost 10 years ago when I became a celebrant, the industry looked very different to how it is today.

Many celebrants were doing this job in their retirement, as a hobby, or as an act of community service.

I knew I wanted something more.  I wanted to be different and to make this my career. I wanted couples to have choice –  I wanted ceremonies to be more meaningful and not just “cookie cutter” all size, fits all.

In the early days I tried to reach out to my fellow colleagues, as I recognised the value of being able to learn and develop from each other. My attempts to connect were unsuccessful. I felt they saw me as a threat.  After all I was their competition.

However a few years ago I met a like-minded celebrants and this was a game changer for me. All of us recognised that life is not a competition. It is about surrounding ourselves with similar people with similar values and striving to become better.

 

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As Marriage celebrants, we are required to legally complete our annual professional development training every year.  We need to keep up to date with all aspects of our job, particularly in the last 18 months with the changes around marriage equality.

 

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Each year we get together at an annual conference for the Celebrant Society, to fulfil our Ongoing Professional Development requirements.

But we also attend a number of workshops lead by some of my colleagues who have a lot to offer in the way of experience and expertise, discussing innovative topics within our industry.

I am truly humbled to have been invited back again this year, to host a funeral workshop.   Although, I will never claim to be the master of anything as I feel there is always something to learn, over my years as a celebrant I have been fortunate enough to be invited into the lives of many families to help them to create beautiful and meaningful ways to remember their loved ones.

Funeral celebrancy is where I feel most at home and I have done some of my best work. The families I have worked with have taught me more than I could have imagined.

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During my workshop, I will share my experience so my colleagues can learn and help make a difference in the lives of others.

 

 

Each celebrant in this group is one of my competitors but we value “community over competition”.

We are changing lives, we are changing the industry and we are striving to be the best celebrants we can be.

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As you can see I found my people.Fiona Garrivan Funeral Celebrant Melbourne